Body Positivity, What Does Beauty Mean?
While doing some research today, I accidentally came across this video. A video touching body positivity that even when knowing it was just a comercial action, had a message that both upset me and inspired me, in equal parts. Making me want to share my thoughts on this subject.
It was not the message spread per se, what really upset me, but being honest, it was mostly my reaction to it. Those feelings and thoughts that I got in response to its message, which did not make me feel particularly proud. Making me want to pose the same question to you, my dear reader, in hopes you will have a better response, than the one I had for myself.
Dear reader, what are you? Are you beautiful or are you average? I want you to watch this video listening to your heart and feelings and answer this question with as much honesty and truthfulness as you can. Without any fear of being judged, specially by yourself, just watch it and pay attention to your own response, but which ever response you have, do not leave this place today without reading what I have to tell you about this.
I will be telling you something that maybe you are yet not aware of. Something that even if you are not, you should definitely keep into consideration from now on. Not only every time you are faced with a similar situation, but specially in your day to day.
After watching it, I thought that it is kind of funny how we all seem to want to be beautiful, we all seem to want people to tell us how beautiful we are, we all seem to want to be approved or reassured by others but sadly we don’t seem to be able to tell the thing that we so desperately want to hear from others to ourselves.
This reflexion started, because watching this video made me think about myself. About how I perceive and see myself and how I would have approached the subject and the result didn’t make me happy at all. It made me kind of sad and angry at my own self, because given the chance I know I would have chosen average not only that, but I did still choose average at the end of the video. And as someone in the video said, I was rating myself average, no one else. But if I rate myself average, aren’t I giving the right to other people to rate me and treat me as average as well?
If we don’t give ourselves the right to see beauty in ourselves, how are we going to allow others to see that beauty. And even if they do see it, how are we going to believe them if we label ourselves as not beautiful from the very beginning. If average or even ugly is all we come to think of ourselves.
Beautiful, as the video said is a great word, but also a really powerful and extensive one. Beauty is not only one thing, it is a thousand different ones, hundreds of thousands and that is the charm of it. Being beautiful is not on being tall, nor short, nor skinny, nor to have perfect skin. Or anything that we can pin down at first sight. Being beautiful is something above all those, beauty is something so big that can’t be labeled, because fortunately many things in life are beautiful, even when we do not realize about it.
Beauty can be many things. A random smile, a kind act or a mark that only we have. Beauty is being strong and being brave. Beauty is happiness and feeling good with yourself, even when you might not feel like that all the time. Beauty is being kind to others and give them nice words, beauty can be so many things… but why when we all have tons of these beautiful things, we still let ourselves be categorized by others, or worse we categorize ourselves, as non beautiful.
Why? Because we might have crooked teeth, or cellulite, or acne or whatever things that can make us feel unworthy of the word beautiful? But, who decided that those things were not beautiful? Magazines, fashion brands, your mom, the don’t judge me challenge, your family, a boy/girl from your class, someone you met on the street…And if so who are they to decide for us? Who in this world can say what is beautiful and what is not, and why?
Just because someone might not like something, it doesn’t mean it will stop being beautiful. As a very descriptive example, if someone were to be blind and not able to see the sunlight, does that actually mean that the light does not exist? Then why is it that just because someone is blind to our own beauty or because of certain opinions, we shut down our own and make those opinions our own reality.
Just because someone has an opinion, that specific opinion, does not have to become a reality. It could be that person’s reality, but it definitely does not have to be an overall reality for the rest of us. Beauty is something so abstract, so different for each and every single one of us that can not be pinned down by stereotypes. Beauty is a reflection of who you are, an eco from you to others. And just because some people might not be able to see that beauty, it doesn’t mean that it is not there altogether. Or that the rest of us, you included, shouldn’t be able to see it.
So today, following my own advice, I decided to rate myself as beautiful. Not by any stereotypes on my country, or by magazines, or for what I see in social media, not by my physique and not even for what people around me, might think or not think about me. I decided to rate myself beautiful because of who I am, for everything that makes me being me, flaws and strengths included.
I rated myself beautiful, because we have the right to feel beautiful for who we are. That is our true reality, we are who we are, that is what makes us so special and being oneself is the most special and beautiful thing of all. The thing that no one, but yourself, could take away from you.
With this am not telling you that it is bad to want to improve, or even to want to change some things about yourself. I am not telling you, that you have to believe in your beauty all the time, and that if you don’t do it you should feel bad for even having those thoughts.
Not at all, I think whatever you feel, has an importance and you should not judge yourself or feel bad about having those thoughts. But, I just hope that from now on, whatever you might want to change, if there is anything, will come from a place of self love and self respect. And that no matter where you are and how you might be feeling, you always try to give yourself and others a bit more kindness, a bit more appreciation and at the end a bit more love.
So on this day l ask you to please smile and make sure you see and share how beautiful you are with the world today. And if you are not ready yet, to please not worry, body positivity, self love and self worth come slowly and only willingly. So try to see and feel how beautiful you are without any pressure.
Be inspired and inspiring. I am not talking only about body positivity, but about you not forgetting to go out there and inspire others as well. Spreading love, positivity and kindness, make the world a better place starting from yourself.
You, my dear reader are beautiful, even if you might not see it yet. So do not forget to make the world a beautiful place too, with your words and your actions, because every beautiful soul deserves an equally delightful world to live in.
****Disclaimer: The media on this body positivity article have not been taken by me, but has been allowed for public use by the authors.